outgoing? or
shy?
Most people try to categorize people in two different groups. One is the shy, and the other the outgoing. One of my friends mentioned the other day that he was a very shy person in high school and didn’t make any friends. He then told me that he also really disliked outgoing people because they look down on the shy and are very conceded. I find this funny because a lot of my friends who are outgoing look at shy people and think of them as very narcissistic. So where is this coming from? How are we misunderstanding each other so much? After talking with a bunch of friends who are shy and outgoing, from what they said shy people might look at the more outgoing and view their confidence as self absorption and that the outgoing, look at the shy, and believe the shy to think they are too good to socialize with others. It may seem so “high school” but, in every circumstance people always join and befriend people and groups who are similar to themselves. I do not think that this is out of pride but out of comfort. We are more comfortable with people who look similar to us, and act more like us. Now, don't get me wrong, I don't mean to put people into only those two groups. Everyone is different and it's different for each person. So my goal for this next week is to jump out of my normal comfort zone and befriend someone completely opposite to me. Wish me luck!
P.S. I hope you like the new look of my blog:)
Sunday, April 5, 2009
Outgoing vs. Shy
Posted by Lindsay Duerden at 2:25 PM
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2 comments:
good point.
I still think it depends on each person because I have different sort of friends, and many are completely different then me. So yes, it is possible to reach out to people that have different circumstances.
good luck.
That's interesting. I have been accused of being narcissistic before, so I guess I'm shy. :)
Actually I'm another of those that was pretty shy in high school, and didn't "blossom" till I was out of my teens.
I don't think it's fair to label shy people as narcissistic, any more than it's fair to label outgoing people as conceited. I've known both groups, and I really believe you need both. Then again, you need to know how to deal with both groups.
You need to be able to draw a shy person into a conversation, once you do you'll learn they have some very interesting things to say.
You need to be able to get an outgoing person to express their true feelings. Once you do you'll find they also have insecurities.
People really do have the same emotions, it's just a matter of discovering how they react to those emotions. It's kind of like understanding the fight (outgoing) or flight (shy) reaction.
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